How to Be a Good Client
Me, in NYC, doing what I do best. 🫧🫧🫧
Whether it's a split-second interaction or a prolonged conversation, either digital or in person, you can get a sense of how you’re going to mesh with someone fairly quickly. This can be said of our first meeting. Whether it's through a booking form, a text message, or an email, first impressions matter to me.
Before we move further, I need to tell you that these are my own words and I don't use any AI on my website, other than my dictation software. Just me, Wispr Flow, and a blank page ready for my reflections. I figured I'd spare you the regurgitated slop.
Read Through My Website
I spent a fair bit of time designing and writing my website. My hope in doing this was to create something that is easy for you to understand. To me, it’s a sign of respect when you look through it and familiarize yourself with what I offer.
My website starts with the About page. On this page, you'll get a sense of who I am as a high-end companion. Perhaps in what I've listed, you'll find similarity, or you'll find a common thread that we can continue to build upon. My hope in this is to give a realistic and authentic picture of the person that you're looking to connect with.
We then move on to the Archives page. This section is divided into two: professional photos and iPhone photos. A lot of the professional photos I took myself, and the iPhone photos offer a sliver of lifestyle pictures of me on dates, fly me to you’s and more candid moments.
On my Experiences page, you can view all the different places that we could venture. Whether it's companionship, sensual massage arts, or a travel/fly me to you, you'll be able to see what to put in the envelope, as well as more information for each amount of time.
On my Questions page, you'll be able to see frequently asked questions that I have received over the years. It also details my screening needs. I kindly ask you to read through these, as a question that you may have could be answered in the section. I understand that some questions are very specific and you may need to reach out to me in order to receive an answer. This I am okay with, as long as it is both intentional and respectful. It’s important that we remain on the same page about our connection.
You will then see my Musings section. This is where I share my thoughts, any experiences that I hope to share with you and other writing of mine. It was important for me to not build this website with a base of AI and to speak through my own words. After all, it is a human being that you are looking to meet with.
The Adorn Me page details the gifts that I appreciate and enjoy. Your generosity is always appreciated. I am a person that does love to feel, look, and definitely smell good. No pressure, of course.
I do welcome respectful Testimonials. I understand that this industry comes with a lot of bait and switch tactics. I won't knock anybody's hustle, but it's not mine. My hope is that through these testimonials you'll be able to further visualize how our time together may go.
My website also includes links to my socials. I am currently on Blue Sky, Twitter/X, Instagram, and Spotify. I also share emails from time to time. You can sign up for my newsletter at the bottom of my page. These platforms provide another lens into my world.
Provide Your Screening Details
Screening, for me, is non-negotiable. Unfortunately, providers are more vulnerable to violence in many forms. Screening is an effective way to mitigate that violence and that risk. You too deserve privacy and safety, so rest assured that your screening details are handled with utmost care. After I complete my screening process, I then delete the data. Then we can really get to the good part!
Communicate Clearly
When making your first inquiry, you can reach out via form, email, or text message. Once we are acquainted, I appreciate communication that is clear and direct, especially if we have not met before. As you can imagine, I receive quite a bit of incoming communication. Filtering through them is another task on its own. In your message, especially the initial one, please feel free to share a bit about yourself and what it is you are looking to share with me. How long are you thinking? Where do you want to connect? Which screening option works best for you? Those are questions that you can answer in your initial communication.
Sending numerous emails in between sessions that are not related to booking or are mostly about your daily life are not helpful for my attention or for our relationship, unless we have both consented to this form of communication.
The more I am away from my screen, the more that I can connect with the present moment. Being intentional with communication allows me to be a more lively companion.
Respect what I do
From the outside looking in, things may look easy in my position. Sure - leisure is a deeply important part of my life. However, being in this industry involves having a deep awareness of emotion, a keen sensitivity to privacy and data security, societal stigma, banking discrimination, increased exposure to violence, and much more.
When you view me as your peer, our connection strengthens.
Respect also comes in the form of acknowledging my guidelines for behaviour and the envelope. Haggling is bad form. Trying to cut a deal is bad form. These boundaries that I set are for our mutual enjoyment. They create clear expectation for both of us and allow for less disappointment and less friction.
If you are coming to me, please ensure that the amount indicated for the envelope is settled promptly. This allows for more time to enjoy one another. I don't want to ask for the envelope, and sometimes you may forget as there's so many emotions and much excitement in those initial moments. I'll remind you, and when I do, please respond appropriately.
Hygiene is so sexy
There's nothing like smelling, feeling, and being fresh. I take really good care of myself - Physically, emotionally, mentally. When preparing for our meeting, please take some time to groom yourself too. You could even make it a part of the experience. This looks like:
Brushed teeth & tongue
Clean nails and hair
Deodorant
Tending to and cleaning body hair and skin around private areas (foreskin needs extra care!)
Clean clothing and underwear
When you arrive, I'll have a dedicated assortment of toiletries, soaps, and other body care products for you to use. You'll be able to take a shower and really freshen up before our time begins.
Protect my privacy, and yours
Both of us are human beings. We both carry stories that are nuanced, complex, and most importantly, private. What you share with me is never relayed to anyone else. My internet search tangents typically involve interviews from artists & musicians, travel itinerary planning, and that one YouTube wormhole I just can't get out of (I know you have one too). I will not be looking for your address, more information on your life, or anything to do with you. I'll wait for when we are together to dive into all the awesome things about you.
Bring your emotional intelligence
There's so many ways to do foreplay. Asking if I've ever had any bad experiences is not one of them. Let's make a deal - I won’t ask you about your bad experiences, and you won't ask me.
Lastly, prying for information also isn't foreplay. I won't gossip about my peers or colleagues, I won't tell you where I really live and I have no interest in telling you the deepest details of my life.
My type of foreplay involves long, engaged eye contact. I love a deep kiss, a juicy and strong embrace, and many, many other things.
Intimacy is a delicate thing, and it's important that we continue to communicate along the way. If there's something that is rubbing me the wrong way or is making me feel really uneasy, I'll let you know. You are welcome to do the same. If we're not doing a specific type of BDSM that we’ve mutually agreed upon and we haven't been clear about safe words and boundaries, no means no.
Reflect
So, we got to the good part. Once our juicy encounter has come to an end, I welcome you to reflect on how our time went. What did you learn about yourself? What were the highlights of our time together? How did it feel to be seen and enjoyed? If you wish to send me a brief note on how you felt our time went, I would always enjoy hearing your words. And if you wish to see me again, don't hesitate to reach out via text, email, WhatsApp, or again through my booking form. I'll keep our communication on your preferred channels to ensure privacy and discretion.
Ready to connect?
Now that we've gotten the business out of the way, let's move towards pleasure. Reach out through my booking page and tell me a little about yourself and how you’re looking to share time.
Our connection is waiting. All you have to do is reach out. 🤎